We all want to be loved, admired, accepted, and respected.
But what makes others want to be around us?
If we’re talking to someone and:
- Aren’t sure what to say
- How to act
- Scared of rejection
We close off the potential of success.
We have the power to say the right thing in any situation – why don’t we?
Like other things, we don’t know the formula, and doubt our choices.
Confidence comes from knowing what we do will work.
Knowledge gives us power to control the direction of results.
The more pleasure people associate with you the more they’ll want you.
Successful social skills means fine-tuning our communication.
This means knowing the core of successful communication.
We’ve all had someone else be successful, tried the same thing, and couldn’t understand why we got rejected.
The secret isn’t what we say – it’s how we say it.
Seeing charismatic people on the surface, we notice differences:
- Oprah Winfrey is energetic and engaging.
- Steve Jobs appears calm and dramatic.
- Bill Clinton appears articulate and warm.
But what’s the “x factor” which makes one person successful and not another?
There are many personality types, but charisma is defined by 1 word:
We have 2 parts to energy which physically extend our personality.
1. INFLECTION. Imagine just one note over and over – it gets boring fast.
When you speak, do you project a “rainbow”, or the same note?
Imagine running your hands up and down a piano – be creative.
2. EXPRESSION. Imagine a cartoon character – smile, grin, expression, and voice.
The first step is discovering the most powerful expression of yourself.
Basically, be unafraid to express yourself – but first you must find yourself.
Here’s how we start crafting a core personality.
Find someone who represents your ideal self:
It can be James Bond, Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs – whoever – study this person carefully.
Notice the unique way they express these 2 traits – If they have a nice voice, practice speaking like them.
This won’t happen overnight, and requires some trial-and-error.
But like learning any skill, once we master this it’s permanently life transforming.
Practice in the mirror – train yourself look, think, feel, act as your perfect self.
As you practice, notice inner conflicts from old programming:
1. What mental beliefs stop us from being ourselves.
2. What action must be taken to destroy these limits.
We have potential – success comes down to vision, consistent practice, and willingness (and confidence) to take action.